- - Hilary Duff's Husband Responds to Ashley Tisdale's 'Toxic' Mom Group Essay: 'Most Self Obsessed Tone Deaf Person on Earth'

Madison E. GoldbergJanuary 7, 2026 at 4:13 AM

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Hilary Duff's husband Matthew Koma has entered the conversation surrounding Ashley Tisdale leaving her "toxic mom group," after Tisdale wrote an essay about it for The Cut

Koma posted a photo of himself photoshopped onto Tisdale's body with The Cut's logo and a mock headline that read "The Most Self Obsessed Tone Deaf Person On Earth"

Tisdale's personal essay about leaving a "toxic mom group" followed a viral post about it on her personal blog in December 2025

Hilary Duff's husband Matthew Koma has entered the conversation surrounding Ashley Tisdale leaving her "toxic mom group."

Koma, 38, posted a photo of himself photoshopped onto Tisdale's body. In the photo, he is seen sitting on a couch next to a houseplant, while wearing an all-black outfit paired with rose-tinted lensed sunglasses on his Instagram Story on Tuesday, Jan. 6.

Koma added The Cut's logo and a fictional headline to the photo, which read "When You're The Most Self Obsessed Tone Deaf Person On Earth, Other Moms Tend To Shift Focus To Their Actual Toddlers," with a sub-headline that read, "A Mom Group Tell All Through A Father's Eyes."

"Read my new interview with @TheCut," Koma captioned the Instagram Story post.

The post appears to directly slam Tisdale's recent personal essay published in The Cut on Monday, Jan. 5.

Tisdale, 40, kept the women from her former friend group anonymous in the piece, instead framing the experience as an empowering reminder that it is okay for anyone to walk away from relationships that no longer feel healthy.

"If a mom group consistently leaves you feeling hurt, drained or left out, it’s not the mom group for you," Tisdale wrote. "Choosing to step away doesn’t make you mean or judgmental. It makes you honest with yourself. It’s also worth remembering that friendships, like all relationships, have seasons."

She recalled in the personal essay that a series of small moments allegedly led her to step away from the group. The High School Musical alum said that when she realized she was no longer being invited to group hangouts, she initially brushed it off and made excuses for why she was left out.

“We were all busy, life was hectic. I told myself it was all in my head and it wasn’t a big deal,” Tisdale wrote. But after the third or fourth time she saw photos on social media of her friends together without her, she began to feel the exclusion was intentional.

“As I increasingly felt left out, I remembered something. Or rather, someone,” Tisdale recalled in the essay. “During the early days of the group, there was another mom who often wasn’t included. I’d picked up on hints of a weird dynamic, but at the time, I didn’t dwell on it too much. I was just so happy to have found these incredible, smart, funny women."

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She continued, “Now it seemed that this group had a pattern of leaving someone out. And that someone had become me. Why me? The truth is, I don’t know and I probably never will."

Tisdale's essay in The Cut came one month after her December 2025 blog post, titled "You're Allowed to Leave Your Mom Group," went viral. "When I became a mom, I craved connection almost as much as I craved sleep. So I did what a lot of us do. I joined a mom group," Tisdale wrote. "But here’s the thing nobody prepared me for: Mom groups can turn toxic. Not because the moms themselves are toxic people, but because the dynamic shifts into an ugly place with mean-girl behavior. I know this from personal experience."

PEOPLE has reached out to representatives for Duff and Koma for comment.

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